Dharmajam's Blog

Old News: TV is Drugs
October 24, 2010, 4:13 am
Filed under: Mothering / Parenting

TV is the bane of attachment parenting.  It can function in a very similar way as the pipe to a crack addict.  When I feel like I can devote myself fully to the baby falling asleep, it goes down like the most idyllic, beautiful scene you could ever witness between mother and child.  But, when I haven’t given enough to myself, and it is the end of a long hard day, and all I want with my entire soul is to plop and veg, but I’ve chosen to parent in this way that requires my presence for falling asleep (I can not get behind ‘cry it out’ and don’t want to), it plays more like a battle scene from Predator vs. Alien. 

The baby can FEEL my state of being.  She knows when I don’t want to be with her, and it hurts.  Tonight was a good night; my desire to be there with her as she went to sleep instilled trust and a feeling of security for her.  Tonight I uncovered yet another layer of the power of motherhood, and it came on the heels of powerful prayer that was answered immediately.  Thank you, thank you, thank you.


The Wrongness of Convenience
October 7, 2010, 6:29 pm
Filed under: Uncategorized

The wrongness of easyness or convenience. When I was contemplating a degree in Linguistics, the response from person after person was “OH! You know, linguistics is HARD.” This response demonstrated either a belief in my stupidity, or a belief that if it was hard, it wasn’t worth doing, possibly both.